I was introduced The Secret
by Ella. The DVD is about 1 and a half hour. I just re-watched it yesterday. Since then, I've been pondering about its effects and the magic of it.
As I was thinking about the Law of attraction, I started to look at certain things that happened to me.
For those who don't know about the laws of attraction, let me briefly explain. It simply means, what you think, you will attract.
A few examples, if you have failed at something, and each time you fail, you kept thinking of how badly you fail, how lousy you are, that failure will expand.
The next time you attempt the same thing, you will fail, this time it will be worse than before.
If you think that you will get scolded for not doing a good job, chances are, you will get scolded.
If you think that you don't deserve to have a lot of money, 100% chance is that you won't have much.
Now, how many times do we ever think back and wonder why something happened to us over and over again?
Did everything that happened, happen because of fate? Or did it happen because you made it happen?
In the first example, when we fail at something, what is the natural emotion we will feel? Sadness? Depression? Insecurity? Unworthiness?
Notice that all these emotions are negative. When we feel negative emotions, do we feel good about ourselves?
So subconsciously, we associated the thing that we do to the emotions that we felt when we did it for the first time.
If we focused on the bad feelings, and kept on replaying the scene of how embarrassing it was when we couldn't do it right, how badly we felt when we just couldn't get it, do you think that we will ever find the courage to give it another try it without inhibitions?
Naturally, we will want to protect ourselves from pain. To do that, we will stop ourselves to try hard enough to learn the thing right. Because if we don't do something, we won't fail right?
So how did people manage to learn things?
Mentors, teacher, guru, predecessors, seniors, leaders, idols. These are the people we look up to. They are at where we want to be. They have been there, done that. We know they can do it, so can we.
Each time we fail, instead of focusing on the bad emotions, if we keep in our mind how good it will feel when we can do something as good as our mentor, how impressive it will be, how worthy we will feel. How happy we will become. Do you think you will learn something better?
Notice that the emotions associated to succeeding are all positive emotions? They empower us, they give us the strength to press on even when we fail. It is the cheese at the end of the station that kept us moving.
Isn't it true that what you focus on expands? You focus on your failures, you will fail. You focus on your future success, you will succeed.
This applies for the other 2 examples or even anything you can think of.
If you think that you don't deserve a lot of money, what happens if alot of money comes to you out of nowhere?
You'll feel fear right? You'll think of all the negative things that can happen to you when you keep the money. You'll imagine yourself being robbed, imagine how everyone will want to have a share of it. The money will be gone before you realise what has happened to it because you keep rejecting the ownership of it.
The laws of attraction is just so wonderful.
I began to ponder about the obscure art of fortune telling.
What are the cliche phrases that we hear fortune tellers in TV or movies will say?
You will encounter a disaster. You will get married by 40. You will meet a saviour. You will have a good life.
All these statements. Realise that they are not very specific?
They are statements of the future. The future does not exist. If I tell you to stand up tomorrow, you can't. Because we are forever living in today.
But what makes fortune telling so amazing is that it only comes true if you believe.
Notice how it works?
It only comes true if you believe.
Meaning, you will not have any disaster if you think that the fortune teller is bullshitting. Or you will advert the disaster by paying $5k for a pebble inscribed with a scratch. Your mind will think that now that you have bought a lucky charm, disaster will avoid you, and it will. Because why? Disaster will never happen until you start to believe it will.
Say if you consciously think that the fortune teller is a hoax. But you keep looking out for disaster. Guess what you will find?
Every single thing that happen to you will appear to be disastrous. Because it is a chain effect. Once something that's insignificant becomes recognized as a disaster, you will start to believe that disaster is really happening to you, and you will take measures to avoid it which will lead you into something worse.
What you focus on expands.
On the other hand, if the fortune teller says that you will find your soulmate and get married by 40 years old. What will happen if you believed her?
You will start to be more open to relationships and appreciates traits of your partner you would never have admired before. You become more receptive to meeting that someone special. If you are young, this will become a hinder, as you will think that you're unworthy to marry at a young age. But if you are in your 30s, this belief will help you see pass imperfection of others because you believe that you will get married.
It balls down to the word belief.
If you believe something will happen to you and keeps on focusing on it.
The thing will happen.
Things happen to us all the time.
The only difference it makes to focus your thinking is to accept the normal things that happen as miracles.
It feels so empowering just by trying to explain the power of this law of attraction.
Perhaps you would like to share your own experience of the law of attraction?
The act of sharing will empower you. You will feel really good after sharing.
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So, if the law of attraction exists. How can we use it to work for us?
One method is visualisation.
It is the process where you imagine yourself already having the things that you want.
When we are in the state of having, we create positive energy. We attract things that we want when we tell our mind that we already have it.
My interpretation of this is, opportunities are ever present. The only thing that is not always there is our readiness to receive it.
Probably like the old astronomical thinking that the Sun revolves around the Earth.
The Sun is the opportunity that is so bright and warm and Earth is the place close to us and comfortable, our comfort zone.
What we currently think is that Opportunity is revolving around everyone and only those lucky people can get it.
When we have the thinking that Opportunity is revolving around us, we become self centered. We began to think that we are in the middle of everything and opportunities should come to us.
And when we think that we are in the center, we believe that things will happen naturally without us having to move.
But the fact it, it is completely the other way round.
Opportunity, the Sun, is forever there. It is not moving, it is ever present.
We on the other hand, are the little planets that orbit around the Sun. To get closer to Opportunity, we have to alter our course. The only time when we can touch Opportunity is the time when our orbit intersects it.
We move to get to opportunity. Opportunity does not come to us.
When you go in a state of have. Your orbit will touch the Opportunity. It does not mean that you are touching it. It just mean that if you keep on moving, you will get to Opportunity sooner or later.
The moment you start thinking that you have and are grateful that you have, your orbit automatically shifts to intersect Opportunity.
Get the picture?
Well, one point you can take is to stop thinking that you are the most important thing in the universe and everything has to come to you. Stop thinking that each time you do not get what you want, you are not treated fairly. There is no such thing as fair.
This is a universe of causality. Cause and effect. You don't get what you want because you are not tuned to receive it. Change yourself.
It is interesting to note that even though this is common sense, we can often miss it.
We all like to justify. Like to believe that things did not happen because we weren't lucky enough or it was something else fault.
Think whatever you like, there's no rules to it. Only what's proven to work and not work.
I think this applies to everything. Including relationship.
The time when I finally understand how to apply this law into my relationship is the time I will find my soul mate. For the time being, I thank everyone who showed me their concerns. I love you all. =D
For those who like to get a copy of The Secret
, you can get it at Amazon.com
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